A stand-up comedian, and radio presenter, Justice Nuagbe, popularly known as Ushbebe has dropped advice to young people hoping to get married soon.

According to the versatile and talented actor who was born in Kaduna into a polygamous family, “be sure of what they want before getting into marriage. They shouldn’t marry because their friends are getting married. They should know the person and family background. Guys shouldn’t wait until they have all the money in the world. I got married when I just started my career and I didn’t have much but everything fell into place in the long run and I reaped the blessings afterward.”

Ushebe married for 9 years further expressed his view on divorce as well as how he had been holding up in his marriage.

He said, “We have been pushing. So far so good God has been faithful. Every day we get to keep building the home irrespective of whatever plans or goals we set. My wife does a lot taking care of our son and working at the same time. I am of the school of thought that if one wants to do something, one will do it. If one chooses to stay married, one will. We are not in the league of those who choose to quit. We try to accommodate each other. There are many celebrities that have been married for years so I believe staying married is a choice. If one gets tired of their spouse easily then probably they weren’t meant to be together.”

“As commitment is a choice so also is divorce. I’m not an advocate for divorce because I believe it’s beautiful to stay married regardless of the challenges that might come with it. As long as one has chosen to marry, then one should try to stay married. People need to learn to compromise because marriage is beyond one’s principles and policies. Some people divorce because of infidelity, that is a choice but I believe there is still room for forgiveness. In church, we are taught that marriage is for a lifetime and I live by that principle. The only time I accede to divorce is on the grounds of domestic violence. I don’t support staying in an abusive marriage.”

Marriage, is an excellent and necessary adventure of life for a whole lot of reasons. We are all social beings with a desire to connect emotionally. Marriage brings stability, focus, and responsibility to every mature man and woman. As a matter of fact, no matter how successful anyone is in other spheres of life, if you are not married with a stable family, society will still tag you as an irresponsible fellow. That does not in any way suggest that people should rush into marriage with just anyone, in view of the possible complications that may arise as we have heard in different quarters.
In terms of divorce, I believe the two partners must demonstrate willingness and readiness to make the marriage work. It takes two to tangle. If one of the partners is willing and committed and the other is not, the marriage can not work. Many marriages have ended in divorce because one of the partners frustrated all the efforts of the other. To avoid this unfortunate scenario, every single person must take his or her time and be sure of the willingness of the other partner to stick with him or her for life irrespective of whatever may arise in the course of the marriage.