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*RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (2)*

Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7

One major principle in marriage is that conflicts are inevitable. Conflicts are inevitable but they can be taken care of. Conflicts in marriage will give you two outcomes and you will determine the outcome you want to have. The two outcomes are Outcome of Misunderstanding and Outcome of Understanding. Understanding leads to respect, submission, cleaving and unity while Misunderstanding leads to despise, hatred, opposition, separation and disunity. Take note, I didn’t mention divorce as one of the options. Conflicts well managed will lead to understanding but when not well managed, it leads to conquest and destruction.

Dealing with conflicts in marriage, three things must be recognized; namely the issue, the person and the relationship. Most of the time, couples deal with and attack the person and leave the issues unattended to. Attacking the person and not the issue will weaken your relationship. For example, telling your wife she forgets things a lot is attacking the person, and that will weaken your relationship somewhere. Men complain that women waste time; that is dealing with the person not the issue. Women on the contrary don’t actually waste time but use time differently from men.

Deal with conflicts at issue level. Every time conflict shows up and you go after the person, the relationship gets weaker and soon you will need an expert to keep it from tearing. You wonder why your husband withdrew or why your wife is silent; most likely you have not been dealing with conflicts at issue level.

Couples should not hide matters from each other. Find out what the issue is. One of the major problem areas in marriage is s*x matters. These are matters that Christians especially don’t find easy to talk about because the devil convinced us that discussing s*x is ungodly or sinful. But we forget that s*x was created by God, not the devil. Why should unbelievers be talking more about s*x than Christians?


PRAYER: LORD, I receive wisdom to apply the biblical principles to my marriage for excellence, growth and improvement.

BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 8:1-23, Revelation 16:1-21, Psalm 144:1-15, Proverbs 30:29-31

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*RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (3)*

Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7

I want to continue today where I stopped yesterday concerning one of the major problem areas in marriage which is s*x MATTERS. I told you most Christians want to shy away from this but that will not be the best approach. Whenever the pastor gets on the matter of s*x in church, everybody wants to wear the Saint-Mary look. There was a brother when we were growing up. He was about the holiest brother that you can see; he was always saying, “Don’t talk about sex.” I said, “Bro, you are not holy.” He was surprised. Today, among all of us that got married, he has the most number of children; he has children every year and he said we shouldn’t talk about sex.

A woman raised a question years ago: “My husband wants to kiss me but his mouth smells. How do I go about this? If I tell him, he will be offended.” Many women face that problem, and it is affecting their s*x life. Now, if you don’t tell him, somebody will tell him outside in a bad place; how you tell him is where wisdom comes in. In that case, you can buy him a mouth wash. You will be the first to start using it and then you invite him to join you. You can also arrange that the two of you see the dentist together for some professional touch to the mouth odour. To allow mouth odour affect your s*x life without dealing with it is foolish. So, don’t gloss over s*x matters. If you are not mature enough to talk about sex, you are not mature enough for marriage.

Start disciplining yourself to attack every problem at issue level and deal with it there. Separate the issue from the person. The woman with the issue of blood is different from the issue of blood. You have issues and your wife has issues, solve the issues without attacking the person. Every attack against the person weakens the relationship. The first time I said sorry to my wife was not long after we got married. It was the Holy Spirit that told me to do so. I didn’t abuse her but spoke sharply to her while having a discussion.
You may need to apologize to your spouse also on discovering that you have done damage to that relationship by the use of words and the actions you have taken because of issues that could have been addressed. God will always defend the person; God will not excuse the issue, but He will defend the person. The devil will always come after the person and give you enough justification to keep attacking the person of each other until your marriage is irreparably damaged.


PRAYER: I receive boldness to take necessary steps and adjustments to make my marriage a heaven on the earth. Amen!

BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 9:1-17, Revelation 17:1-18, Psalm 145:1-21, Proverbs 30:32

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Eyebami: http://www.spiritmeat.net

*RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (2)*

Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7

One major principle in marriage is that conflicts are inevitable. Conflicts are inevitable but they can be taken care of. Conflicts in marriage will give you two outcomes and you will determine the outcome you want to have. The two outcomes are Outcome of Misunderstanding and Outcome of Understanding. Understanding leads to respect, submission, cleaving and unity while Misunderstanding leads to despise, hatred, opposition, separation and disunity. Take note, I didn’t mention divorce as one of the options. Conflicts well managed will lead to understanding but when not well managed, it leads to conquest and destruction.

Dealing with conflicts in marriage, three things must be recognized; namely the issue, the person and the relationship. Most of the time, couples deal with and attack the person and leave the issues unattended to. Attacking the person and not the issue will weaken your relationship. For example, telling your wife she forgets things a lot is attacking the person, and that will weaken your relationship somewhere. Men complain that women waste time; that is dealing with the person not the issue. Women on the contrary don’t actually waste time but use time differently from men.

Deal with conflicts at issue level. Every time conflict shows up and you go after the person, the relationship gets weaker and soon you will need an expert to keep it from tearing. You wonder why your husband withdrew or why your wife is silent; most likely you have not been dealing with conflicts at issue level.

Couples should not hide matters from each other. Find out what the issue is. One of the major problem areas in marriage is s*x matters. These are matters that Christians especially don’t find easy to talk about because the devil convinced us that discussing s*x is ungodly or sinful. But we forget that s*x was created by God, not the devil. Why should unbelievers be talking more about s*x than Christians?


PRAYER: LORD, I receive wisdom to apply the biblical principles to my marriage for excellence, growth and improvement.

BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 8:1-23, Revelation 16:1-21, Psalm 144:1-15, Proverbs 30:29-31

********************

*RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (3)*

Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7

I want to continue today where I stopped yesterday concerning one of the major problem areas in marriage which is s*x MATTERS. I told you most Christians want to shy away from this but that will not be the best approach. Whenever the pastor gets on the matter of s*x in church, everybody wants to wear the Saint-Mary look. There was a brother when we were growing up. He was about the holiest brother that you can see; he was always saying, “Don’t talk about sex.” I said, “Bro, you are not holy.” He was surprised. Today, among all of us that got married, he has the most number of children; he has children every year and he said we shouldn’t talk about sex.

A woman raised a question years ago: “My husband wants to kiss me but his mouth smells. How do I go about this? If I tell him, he will be offended.” Many women face that problem, and it is affecting their s*x life. Now, if you don’t tell him, somebody will tell him outside in a bad place; how you tell him is where wisdom comes in. In that case, you can buy him a mouth wash. You will be the first to start using it and then you invite him to join you. You can also arrange that the two of you see the dentist together for some professional touch to the mouth odour. To allow mouth odour affect your s*x life without dealing with it is foolish. So, don’t gloss over s*x matters. If you are not mature enough to talk about sex, you are not mature enough for marriage.

Start disciplining yourself to attack every problem at issue level and deal with it there. Separate the issue from the person. The woman with the issue of blood is different from the issue of blood. You have issues and your wife has issues, solve the issues without attacking the person. Every attack against the person weakens the relationship. The first time I said sorry to my wife was not long after we got married. It was the Holy Spirit that told me to do so. I didn’t abuse her but spoke sharply to her while having a discussion.
You may need to apologize to your spouse also on discovering that you have done damage to that relationship by the use of words and the actions you have taken because of issues that could have been addressed. God will always defend the person; God will not excuse the issue, but He will defend the person. The devil will always come after the person and give you enough justification to keep attacking the person of each other until your marriage is irreparably damaged.


PRAYER: I receive boldness to take necessary steps and adjustments to make my marriage a heaven on the earth. Amen!

BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 9:1-17, Revelation 17:1-18, Psalm 145:1-21, Proverbs 30:32

Lord, please help me to build a marriage that is heaven on earth. Thanks ma

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.

Hello my beautiful ladies
Better ways of improving your relationship

As a young beautiful lady, as you crossed path with a man that values and treats you with so much love, the queen that you have always wanted to be. But the problem for you to reciprocate to his love is because of his fashion style, career, spiritual and social life you can improve him on all that.

1) FASHION

Naturally the way God created, men they are not fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually doing well , while some needs to be coach and if your man needs a coach please be his coach. It is your responsibility to make your man look good as a lady ,

You can suggest styles for his tailor to sew.

Try to suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him when he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and applaud him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look good for you

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe...

2) SPIRITUAL

As I told one lady few months back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and: pick a date of fasting for the both of you, you can create a Bible study time for the both of you,

Subscribe to a bible site and send him daily Bible verses or download an audio bible for him. You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron.

3) SOCIAL

Some Men may can be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward.
Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships.

You can be his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc.

4) CAREER

This is also key,

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth.

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path.
Encourage him.
Motivate him.
Use your Woman power girl.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with him proverbs 14:1 'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..
Don't abandon your life, building his.
We can all be great together.